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Lucy Rowett is a sex coach from England and the author of Get Sexy: A Juicy Girl’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Natural Sensuality. Amanda, FLURT’S Editor-in-Chief, caught up with Lucy over email to talk about what it means to be a sex coach, why people seek out her services and how this kind of non-conventional career has changed her life for the better.
Amanda: So what exactly is a sex coach?
Lucy: Sex coaching is actually a brand new field, and no, it doesn’t
mean I stand by people’s beds like a cheerleader! A sex coach works
like a life coach – meaning we work with clients to achieve what
goals they want, but in their sex lives.
A: Why did you decide to take this kind of non-conventional career path?
L: After a health breakdown in my teens, I was forced out of the regular
education system. On rebuilding my health, I realized I couldn’t follow
the conventional career path, so I did a lot of work around finding my
passions. It turned out my passions are writing, spirituality and sex, and
I wanted to do a career in a field I loved. I came across Sex Coach U last
year, and started with them in January. I feel so at home in the sexology
community because we’re all oddballs who want to create change
and envision a sex positive world. I’m very excited to be a part of it.
A: What part does spirituality play in your life and career?
L: Initially I trained in the psychic arts and energy healing. I love how
my training at Sex Coach U embraces a holistic model created by Dr
Patti Britton, because I believe it’s hugely important to embrace the
whole person: Mind, emotions, body, energy and spirit. One of my
inspirations is Sexologist Gina Ogden who created the ISIS wheel:
Integrating Sex and Spirituality. I rely on my intuition a lot, and I still
read the tarot for clients too. Spirituality is very much a part of my
lifestyle, as I treat life as an ongoing journey where I am constantly
learning, growing and healing. But at the same time, I believe everyone’s
experiences of spirituality are different and don’t try and force
my beliefs on anyone.
A: Do you find yourself a lot happier now that you’ve changed your lifestyle?
L: Absolutely. I couldn’t imagine ever having a regular job or way of life
now. I wake up feeling excited and inspired, and am always learning
something new. My work is very flexible, and I feel like I’m using all of
my skills. Plus, I find that a lot of unexpected people come to me for sex
advice, and I feel like I’m getting to the heart of what makes people tick.
A: What kind of things do people come to you for help with?
L: The most common questions are from men with rapid ejaculation
issues, as well as women who want more from their sex lives. Often
people just want an open and sympathetic ear they can talk to about
sex who they know won’t be shocked or judge them.
A: What can you be found doing in your downtime?
L: I organize an international meetup, so I’m often hanging with my
friends from there, and I love learning new languages. When I’m not
writing on my website, I’m dancing Bachata or just walking by the sea
where I live. And I really want to get back into making perfume.
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